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Originally posted by collide
Well, it would depend on the secret. What did you have in mind?
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That's a fair question. (see below)
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Originally posted by ktthequeen
I'd have to agree.
Also, whether said secret has any bearing on your hubby/SO's personal relationships would have to be taken into consideration (ie a girlfriend confided in you to cheating on her husband, a friend of your own husband)
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You are both raising the issues that are difficult for me to frame. My own answer is that I don't keep secrets from hubby. Our friends know that and sometimes that means that there are things they aren't comforable telling me (same goes for him but I don't think guys share things the way women do).
I can see how having confidences that you don't share with your husband can be reasonable for some, or maybe even most, people. I'm just curious how other people handle it. How do you balance it? Where do you draw the line?
Since I don't have a category of "kinds of secrets that I'm willing to keep from my husband". I guess I have to reflect the "what kinds of secrets are you talking about" question back to you.
Perspective: Hubby and I fell in love at age 18 and married at 20 while we were in college. I don't have any adult relationships that pre-date the one with my husband. I also don't have any sisters. I think both of those things make a big difference.
Years ago, the first time someone told me something and *then* said, "don't tell your husband" I was surprized. It felt like an intrusion into our marriage that someone would even ask that of me. I've since learned that I'm the oddball and that I need to let people know ahead of time that it's off limits.