I agree they are obsessing on something they shouldn't, I also agree it's their house and you should respect that.
As with anything, you have to weigh the consequences. I note you asked your boss if it was ok. What would you have done if he said, "no"? Done it anyway, have an arguement with him and maybe gotten fired? Or just suck it up and look for a job where you can shave your head?
Same deal with your parents. Do you want the grief for your "freedom" and maybe be asked to leave with lots of hurt feelings on all sides or do you suck it up and respect their request and maybe start looking for your own place?
My only other suggestion is to sit down with them and try to talk with them adult to adult, instead of child to parent. Explain your reasons and feelings calmly and then listen calmly to theirs. Maybe they'll agree that you can really make these decisions on your own now.
Remember, while you are an adult, parents naturally see their children as those that they took care of and guided during the most important years of their lives. If you remember this and reassure your parents while reminding them that you are no longer a child but an adult (while acting like one) you will go a long way towards your freedom and own maturity.
(Part of the maturity may be the 'suck it up' mentioned above. Sometimes adults have to do that too when they can't get thier own way...)
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"Of all tyrannies, a tyranny exercised for the good of its victims may be the most oppressive. It may be better to live under robber barons than under omnipotent moral busybodies. The robber baron's cruelty may sometimes sleep, his cupidity may at some point be satiated; but those who torment us for our own good will torment us without end, for they do so with the approval of their own conscience." – C. S. Lewis
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