I would have to say that listening. Do something and listen to her breathing and how she moves. Did you do something and she tensed up? Did she sound like she liked it? Things like that are important.
For me the idea is to have fun. You have somebodies' very sensitive special parts under your power. Be respectful and gentle. If she asks for more give her more. Tease, pull away, go softer. Try stuff. Mix it up. Explore.
Pay attention.
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