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match000 · 06-22-2011, 06:24 PM

I was in a similar situation before, in a new city and with barely anyone I knew. The few I did know did not invite me out frequently so I ended up hanging out like once every 3 weeks or less.

I'll be in a similar situation too; I'm not looking forward to it. I ended up not meeting many people after 5-6 months, like you. However, I am not depressed so while other posters here who know you better may have good advice, my own opinion is that you should start from the point of view that you are not depressed. Isn't depression one of those things that's like a self fulfilling prophecy, and the more you think about it, the more you get wrapped up in it.

I think volunteering is a great idea. I plan to do just that, at the local SPCA/Humane Society since I love cats. You mentioned you are not confident enough because you are fat; have you considered taking up a work-out routine?

When I was by myself, the one thing I did steadily and that made me feel *great* was to hit up the gym regularly and do as much as I could. You don't have to run 2 miles or even 1 mile, just do enough that you get into the habit and slowly you'll get better and better. I think starting with just the gym is the best way to get started on the path to gaining your self confidence back in full.

*EDit*: once you get your self confidence back, and you feel GREAT just from being in better shape, I think the rest will follow. You will put out a much better vibe, and people will gravitate more towards you. Of course, like others mentioned, you have to get out of your comfort zone too. But that's easier when you are confident about yourself.

Cheers

06-22-2011, 06:24 PM	#6 (permalink)
match000 Psycho	I was in a similar situation before, in a new city and with barely anyone I knew. The few I did know did not invite me out frequently so I ended up hanging out like once every 3 weeks or less. I'll be in a similar situation too; I'm not looking forward to it. I ended up not meeting many people after 5-6 months, like you. However, I am not depressed so while other posters here who know you better may have good advice, my own opinion is that you should start from the point of view that you are not depressed. Isn't depression one of those things that's like a self fulfilling prophecy, and the more you think about it, the more you get wrapped up in it. I think volunteering is a great idea. I plan to do just that, at the local SPCA/Humane Society since I love cats. You mentioned you are not confident enough because you are fat; have you considered taking up a work-out routine? When I was by myself, the one thing I did steadily and that made me feel great was to hit up the gym regularly and do as much as I could. You don't have to run 2 miles or even 1 mile, just do enough that you get into the habit and slowly you'll get better and better. I think starting with just the gym is the best way to get started on the path to gaining your self confidence back in full. EDit: once you get your self confidence back, and you feel GREAT just from being in better shape, I think the rest will follow. You will put out a much better vibe, and people will gravitate more towards you. Of course, like others mentioned, you have to get out of your comfort zone too. But that's easier when you are confident about yourself. Cheers Last edited by match000; 06-22-2011 at 06:28 PM..