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I thinky bullying and a bit of teasing are different things.
It may sound harsh, but if when people called her Dumbo or big ears or whatever she just shrugged and didnt react, people wouldnt do it anymore. Most kids are little bastards and pick on everyone over different things, its the people who react who become the ones who get "bullied". So its best to either shrug it off. If you do feel have to retaliate, you have to do so to a degree that people will be a bit taken aback and try find an easier target than you... but most times any kind of retaliation just gives them the reaction they want... and if you react to being called names with violence yourself, then in a sense youre becoming the bully.
When I was about 10 the headmistress at my school called me a "fat slob" in front of the whole assembly. That break time a whole bunch of kids were literally dancing in a circle round me chanting "you fat slob", and in the end I lost my temper and punched two of them and one of them got hurt...
I might have been provoked, but I was the one who got in trouble, and I suppose you'd say rightly so. And as for the kids who werent the ones that got hit, they got the exact reaction they wanted and motivation to carry on the teasing to see if I'd lose it again. So next time I just shrugged and agreed when someone called me it, and people didnt bother after that.
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