Originally Posted by mixedmedia

interesting. so for you it was a way of repairing the hole blown into your self-image after a break-up. I can understand that, I suppose, but I think there is a 'stage of life' factor playing into it, too. I never had a free young adult period - I was married and having babies about the time most people my age were starting college. So I missed out on the experience of relationships that were never meant to be thought of as 'lifelong.'

Most people here seem to agree that there is a difference - that it depends on the relationship and how deeply you were attached to that person. And, in no little way, whether you were the dumper or the dumpee.