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Hey Metallica-
Man, sounds like you're carrying around a load of anger and resentment for things that are long past. (The school name-calling thing.) You have to realize that kids are mean little shits, and that it doesn't mean anything about you at all. Time to redefine your self-image based on who you are now and not what happened to you then.
About living at home, I see no reason why that should keep you from making friends. If it is keeping you from meeting people, then move out. Simple. It's a choice - which do you want more? A social life, or free room and board with 6 tvs?
If you're truly interested in meeting people, try volunteering. Find an organization you like - some that I've found that have a lot of diversity but a lot of young people are Habitat for Humanity, your local literacy council, etc. Find a way not to focus on your own life and your own complaints and give back to other people. You'd be surprised how fast that attracts people to you, without you having to do much of anything.
Also, one thing I learned (I'm shy and never felt like I had much of interest to say) is to ask people questions about themselves. People love talking about themselves, and they'll think you're the BEST conversationalist. Eventually they'll ask you about yourself and you can share your opinions and your experiences or whatever, and that's how they'll get to know you.
Good luck to you - remember that at any given moment you have a choice about who you are and what you can do. The voice in your head telling you not to talk to someone or not to ask someone out is NOT your friend - it's just trying to keep you safe from life. And life is where the juice is.
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"If ten million people believe a foolish thing, it is still a foolish thing."
- Anatole France
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