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Pile of Problems
At first when I posted I was curious about how cousin relationships would be perceived. People do seem to be more accepting in this forum.
If I factor out the fact that I have a family and just address the relation issue alone these are the three issues that seem to be prevalent:
Social Stigma: Several attach from family to the impact on friendships, work
Legal Issues: There may be laws prohibiting such relationships.
Genetic Issues: higher probability of having a child with defects
These are all serious issues which can strain a relationship to the point of deterioration.
When I factor in my family I realize this is the choice I made. My life is not horrible. My husband is not perfect but neither am I. We have lived comfortably for over 10 years co-existing together but not in love. We have love for each other but are better friends than lovers. We haven't slept in the same bed for more than 5 years. We have done this for the sake of our family. I'd expected to live like this until our child turned 18 in 6 years. It's a strange way to live but it works for us in our strange way. Even with this set up I still don't want to this new entity in my life to be the reason why my marriage should end. It shouldn't be the reason. Either way a happy ending almost seems bleak.
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