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Old 12-02-2010, 07:19 AM   #24 (permalink)
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Originally Posted by Wes Mantooth View Post
I have to agree with Stan, at 18 she's under no obligation to live at home and any strict rules may only serve to drive her out. Keep it simple, obviously rules that keep the house functioning and livable are a must but past that maybe charge her rent and let her come and go as she pleases.
Totally agree, but I also agree with the idea that each child's different. Perhaps the reason for so much concern is that her older sister (now 27) actually chose to move in with her father when she was 18 because my restrictions were too tight. But she was a whole 'nother child. And do remember, sexist or not, she's still a girl. Do you think this should change anything or is that some old-school notion stuck in my head?

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Give her, her freedom and she will blossom. Tie her down and she will forever be someones anchor (not in a good way)

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I'm definitely hearing that one.

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What do you think would happen if you went hands-off and let her do what she pleases?
Truth? She'd probably ask if it was "okay" if she came home at 12. Her expectations aren't that high (thankfully!) and she'd still want me to be okay with it.

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As for the 10pm curfew, whoa. I wouldn't stand for that. You probably wouldn't either, you know, think about it. It'd be different if she were out of control, but she sounds like a model daughter. It also sounds like she might compromise and agree to get in early one weeknight per week.
Thanks for the reminder. I was at home with my parents when I was 18 and used to come home at 5:00 a.m. during the week. Heheheh. My mom actually helped me find an apartment because she wasn't able to sleep until I came home, so pushed me into my independence. Probably the best way to propel me into adulthood.
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