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If my mom had a reason for me to be home early (and since I'm living at home now, sometimes she still does), I would usually respect that. But otherwise, no curfew - but let my mom know if I won't be home at all (by a reasonable hour, usually 10 pm) and respect quiet hours. Coming home at midnight means coming home at midnight and quietly getting ready for bed, not coming home at midnight and having friends over playing video games until 2 am. Quiet hours might be better than a curfew, and that's what she'll have to get used to in a dorm.
As for making her spend time with her sister.. you can't, really. You can let her know that her sister misses her, or have her sister tell her that herself.. but otherwise, you can really just ask that she be home for X family activity at Y time or let her make her own decisions. It's likely that given enough freedom, she'll go a little overboard at first but settle into a good routine that makes both of you happy. It's also likely that she'll WANT to spend time at home if she doesn't feel restricted - if she's constantly worrying about a curfew or you being annoyed with her, she's not going to feel as happy or welcome at home and will likely spend as much time as possible elsewhere.
What kind of hours is she working? I think as long as she's not missing work and does well in her classes when she starts them, you might as well be as hands-off as possible and talk to her about what's going on and how she feels about her schedule when you get the chance. If you have raised her well to this point and you make time to communicate with her solidly most days, you will be able to head off any issues before they arise, most likely.
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