My opinion is that she's now an adult, and that you, as a parent, should no longer be setting rules for her. She's responsible for herself now.
However, if she's still going to be living under your roof, obviously there have to be rules, or an understanding between you about her behavior...but I think those rules should center around not disturbing the functioning of the house, not breaking the law, etc.
I think it's great that your daughter is such a mature and caring person, and that you're thinking about how to work this out with her. So my advice is...just talk to her, and work out the ground rules.
FWIW, I have four under-18 kids of my own, and I think I'll still have the same opinion when they turn 18.
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