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I think you are asking a valid question, ZS.
My approach in my life has been to learn that I don't enter relationships because I need someone in my life, I enter them because I want to share my life with someone.
I didn't come to this conclusion right away. I have lots of caretaker tendencies, and have slowly had to learn through relationships going awry that my version of caretaking does not equal mutual respect. It does not equal a healthy relationship for me.
I tend to disregard gender roles out of neccessity - when my toilet breaks at 2am, I'm either going to attempt to fix it or call a professional. I know what is within my limits, and I've enjoyed the challenge of taking on tasks and challenges that in our society seem to be not the first inclination for women. Then again.. I love being in the kitchen too. Its all about whether you are living life for yourself, or whether you feel like you have to "play the game" in order to accomplish something.
In my personal experience, many people I encounter think gender roles are what's expected of them, whether they truly feel that way internally or not. Its a tough question to ask and search through, because part of that process will alienate you until you find those likeminded in their own views.
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Calling from deep in the heart, from where the eyes can't see and the ears can't hear, from where the mountain trails end and only love can go... ~~~ Three Rivers Hare Krishna
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