Yeah, no connection issues to speak of in our marriage. We profess that we are soul mates, and whether you believe in such a thing or not, we live that way too. We probably tell either other that we love the other 20 times a day or more. Not sure if you've picked up on this yet John$, but I don't really hold back what I'm thinking when I want to say something. I'm pretty good at listening too. To simplify some things, I told my wife years ago that I am a simple person. Do not assume implication, because what I say is direct. If I say a dress doesn't fit, it doesn't fit. I am not saying "you're fat". Likewise I asked that she remove the implication and just say what she means. We have very good communication because of this.
Xazy, to me marriage in an institution defined by the ones who profess it. Just as I do not let a priest define my view of God, I do not let a church, society or otherwise define my view of marriage. We define what our marriage is, not you, him, her or them. If you define marriage as strictly monogamous, then that's excellent. I know plenty of others that define marriage as love with a looser definition of who they have sex with. Some go even further and have open marriages. That,
for me, is too far. My comfort zone, as it stands, is too far for my wife as well.
Her image issue is one I can not quite understand. I know, for me, I would feel simply awesome if she wanted to have a 3some with another girl. The afterglow of that would put me on cloud 9 for weeks. It just made sense to me that the same may be said for her, but she doesn't seem to agree. I know that she likes to feel attractive to others. She's said it herself. This discussion, for me, is just a logical extension of that thinking. The proof is in the pudding, as it were. Events prove what people say.
Ok I've got to get to work. Please discuss and I'll catch up later
