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I must interject, I rarely post on here but some of these posts trouble me.
I few years ago,when I was 25 and my partner 23, even though I was taking the pill we got pregnant. We were not in a financial position to support a child, and he was using cannabis heavily and it was making our relationship rocky.
When I got the test and took it, I immediately told him, his first words were 'I'm too young to be a dad', being naive and totally in love, I felt I did the right thing by him, and went to have a termination. I didn't want to be a single mum.
It has haunted me ever since. I'm sorry to get graphic, but because I wanted not to risk my future fertility I had to have an abortion wherby you essentially give birth to the dead foetus (at 11 weeks), it was horrific and troubling, I am not against abortions nor pro people having kids against their will but if you understood the pressure, guilt, worry and feelings of disgust that went through me shortly after - then you might think twice about being so much more worried about yourself.
I did not choose to get pregnant,
I would never manipulate a man into staying with me by getting pregnant.
Nor would any sane woman.
And it is I that has to live with the choice we made - have a long hard think about what it is she is probably feeling at the moment and be a little less panicked about yourself, and a bit more sympathetic to her, please.
Just a thought from my own experience.
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"We make a living by what we get but we make a life by what we give"
Winston Churchill
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