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yoippari · 07-28-2010, 11:23 PM

I have a big long post that I cut to a notepad but I'm going to try and shorten this to a core idea or two.

I am completely inexperienced with relationships, It's kinda pathetic, I've been on two dates and that didn't go anywhere. I'm 23, she is 21. We are friends and I like her for a whole slew of reasons and I know she likes me but I don't know how much or in what way. We haven't known each other that long and I look forward to getting to know her but I feel like I need to make a decision about us before anything might happen on its own. I want to pursue a relationship but, and this is a big but, she is engaged.

They have known each other for less than six months and he was recently deployed overseas. It isn't a dangerous position or anything but except for e-mail he is unavailable and will be for quite a while. I know people who got married in a hurry before shipping out and the marriages didn't last.

So basically I know I should just step back and not interfere with a current relationship but considering the nature of the relationship and that I really do believe that we would be great together I want to give us a chance. What are your thoughts?

In the interest of a shorter post I'll leave it at that and post the unabridged version if anyone wants more information.

07-28-2010, 11:23 PM	#1 (permalink)
yoippari Upright	over thinking, probably over complicating a beginning relationship I have a big long post that I cut to a notepad but I'm going to try and shorten this to a core idea or two. I am completely inexperienced with relationships, It's kinda pathetic, I've been on two dates and that didn't go anywhere. I'm 23, she is 21. We are friends and I like her for a whole slew of reasons and I know she likes me but I don't know how much or in what way. We haven't known each other that long and I look forward to getting to know her but I feel like I need to make a decision about us before anything might happen on its own. I want to pursue a relationship but, and this is a big but, she is engaged. They have known each other for less than six months and he was recently deployed overseas. It isn't a dangerous position or anything but except for e-mail he is unavailable and will be for quite a while. I know people who got married in a hurry before shipping out and the marriages didn't last. So basically I know I should just step back and not interfere with a current relationship but considering the nature of the relationship and that I really do believe that we would be great together I want to give us a chance. What are your thoughts? In the interest of a shorter post I'll leave it at that and post the unabridged version if anyone wants more information.