What everyone is saying makes sense. Maybe I'm being a little over dramatic due to all the hormones raging through me now. "Call him out" was a poor choice of words. More like talk to him about it. It took him a while to tell me his secret sexual desires because he was afraid I would leave him thinking he was gross or something. He likes a little anal play (was ashamed of it too) and while I'm not interested, I still take care of that request on occasion. He has told me that he wished I would go down on him more. I try, but I have TMJ (it's like arthritis in your jaw) and he is very large and wide, so my little mouth has issues. Plus he takes so long to finish, I rarely get him there without just fucking.
Anyways, if he want to role play with something new, I'll find out. We have done rape a few times and he likes that, but I'm the one that brought that one up. We've done the school girl, librarian, and some others. Maybe I should just say "Daddy, please don't, it hurts" see if he likes it. Maybe, we will see if there is a new role he would like to try.
As for antithesis; How is being curious about what gets your man off and wanting to please him in (almost) whatever way you can controlling?
I've also tried to get him to watch porn with me and he just can't do it. He will look away. I think he is still ashamed in some way for watching/reading porn. Maybe it was beat into his head as a kid that it was wrong or something.
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