Starkizzer

Pain sluts are different than subs though they do overlap a lot.

I am more dominant in the rest of my life and like to be in control of most things, in bed I prefer to be controlled. So everyone is different. She might just like some light BDSM or she may want full fledge stuff. Sometimes people don't know what they like until they find someone they can trust enough to play with and explore these new fetishes.

A good dom will not cross the line, he/she will respect the wishes of the sub and not push boundaries. So, yes, it is really up to you on how much you can handle. Talking to her is key, but you should feel slightly honored that she feels she can trust you enough to even suggest this sort of play. Because no matter what any one says,TRUST really is the issue behind it. I can't let anyone be dominant over me other than smrt, why? Because I do not trust them and I trust him completely.

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