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Originally Posted by amalek
I have asked for the contexts in which she feels abandoned and she says she "doesn't know" -- she says it's been happening since the beginning. I've been nothing but constructive about the whole thing; I always open the discussion, I always try to talk with her until we come to something, and it's always better after the fact. This is the longest she's been upset with me in a long time.
She says "if I feel like I can't come to you when I'm having problems, then this isn't going to work"
what the hell do I do? how do I open up and make her feel warm and welcome? my way of doing it doesn't seem to be working.
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If this is true, then I think she is done with the relationship and either can't admit it to herself yet, or is afraid of dealing with those consequences. If she has problems with the relationship, but you are the one that is bringing up possible solutions, and she is the one who is complaining but can't say why, then you have your answer already and aren't listening.
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