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Wow, i'm surprised at the responses in this thread.
None of you seem to be addressing the long term with your suggestions. Even the OP glosses over the major issue with temporary fixes.
listen, I know little, but I know this. She wants you to man up, express independence, she doesn't want a live in house-sitter, you're encroaching on her independence as well. Maybe she's not ready to live with you yet either and she's just doing it because she's too nice to tell you to gtfo. The thing is, it's all building up under the surface, what you need to do, it stop with the misdirection and peace offerings, and fix the primary issue that you're not wanting to address. Detach yourself a bit from this relationship and give her some time with her independence again. She also might find that she has mixed feelings on her being suddenly more lonely in tradeoff for you being suddenly more manly. (or whatever word you want to describe achieving independence)
the easier said than done part is you, getting a job.
easier said than done doesn't mean you shouldn't work your ass off for it. You've got more at stake than a mere job. If you really care about your situation with her, you're going to man up and get some shit done for the big picture instead of wasting time trying to be her maid.
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