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Originally Posted by CinnamonGirl
You say she's "upset again," which implies that she's been upset a lot lately. Does she no longer feel secure because you're not buying her stuff anymore? Because that's pretty lame.
Nurses work long hours...maybe you could do something special for her (that doesn't involve purchasing "stuff") on her days off, or when she gets home from work. Make her dinner, rub her shoulders, sing her a goofy song.
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Scrub her entire place from top to bottom, new bed sheets, mopped floors, even the toilet. All of it.
Her favourite dinner hot and ready when she gets home. With her particular drink and a home-made dessert.
A warm bath, scented candles, bath salts, a
foot rub (as a nurse she probably spends all day on her feet). Maybe a small box of her favourite chocolates or a single stem of her favourite flower. Something small and inexpensive but still shows you pay attention to what she wants.
This one is probably the most important. THANK HER for helping to bail you out of your tough spot. Let her know just what it means to you and that you appreciate everything she is doing for you. People often spew lines about actions being more important than words while forgetting that speaking is itself an action.
Most of the women I know will tell you that it's not about money, it's about elbow grease. An $8 brass ring from a k-mart box can carry more meaning than a $15000 ring from Tiffany's, it all depends on the circumstances surrounding it. Same thing with cleaning her place, there is a huge difference between having her place cleaned (if you could afford it) and you getting down and dirty yourself.