amalek

So I've been dating a girl for about 7 months now. We started off great and it's generally been really good. Sex, intimacy, etc, is all in place. I was laid off about 2 months in, however, and I've been kinda de facto living with her ever since then. Before that, we dated and saw each other almost every night after work, after I got done tutoring, etc.

I guess the long and the short of it is that she's currently in a conundrum with her work situation (she's doing great monetarily as a nurse but it's killing her and she hates it). We've had discussions in the past about things we need to work on but this time she's pretty serious. To sum up, she says she doesn't feel secure with me and/or doesn't feel a serious commitment. My actions speak louder than what I've told her in our discussions.

My question is, assuming she's correct, is anyone else out there terrible at expressing through actions how you feel for someone you love? Am I lazy or just inconsiderate? Or both? When I had a job, I got her thoughtful little gifts all the time - she mentioned needing highlighters for work, I randomly surprised her with them one day. She wanted a new coffee pot, I researched and got her a really good one that she loves. She wanted a tea pot because she makes a lot of tea, so I got her a nice one from Kitchen Kapers a while back. I'm very confused by the whole thing.