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Cimarron29414 · 04-21-2010, 01:03 PM

My challenge in responding is separating positive traits of humans and positive traits which are distinctly "male". It becomes a highly antropological endeavor and falls on the line of offensive. "Hey, I know a girl who's like that. How dare you associate that as a male quality?!?!" So, rather than respond with that - please understand that I recognize the shades of gray and embrace them. So, here's my shot at it. You want a good male role model? Me. And I say that without a moment's hesitation.

I love and respect the women in my life as equals. I honor them for the strengths and abilities which I lack. I acknowledge and appreciate the distinctly feminine roles they play in my life.

I accept my distinctively male size, strength, and abilities. I accept the responsibilities which come from that size - be it physically protecting my family, mowing the grass, or opening a tight lid. Mind you, these things don't make me better than females, they are opportunities for me to contribute to the family as a physically larger human with greater stamina.

I am capable of providing for my family financially and physically. I can bring home a paycheck and I can bring home a hunted animal for dinner. I am not ashamed of this fact, nor do I revel in the taking of life. It is a necessary skill and others in my family can not do it.

I recognize how difficult society has made it to be a woman these days - the pressure to be all things to all people. To have a full career and still be a complete wife and a complete mom. To be pretty ALL the time, to be thin ALL the time. To be fashionable ALL the time. I am completely supportive of my mate when it comes to her sometimes wanting to drift with this tide and sometimes wanting to swim against it.

Besides that, you have the standard gentleman's manners of doors and chairs, handshakes, and iron-clad words of honor.

All other things like putting a marriage and family first in life, being honest, etc. I think they are just good human qualities to strive for. Nothing particularly male about them.

04-21-2010, 01:03 PM	#5 (permalink)
Cimarron29414 Still Free Location: comfortably perched at the top of the bell curve!	My challenge in responding is separating positive traits of humans and positive traits which are distinctly "male". It becomes a highly antropological endeavor and falls on the line of offensive. "Hey, I know a girl who's like that. How dare you associate that as a male quality?!?!" So, rather than respond with that - please understand that I recognize the shades of gray and embrace them. So, here's my shot at it. You want a good male role model? Me. And I say that without a moment's hesitation. I love and respect the women in my life as equals. I honor them for the strengths and abilities which I lack. I acknowledge and appreciate the distinctly feminine roles they play in my life. I accept my distinctively male size, strength, and abilities. I accept the responsibilities which come from that size - be it physically protecting my family, mowing the grass, or opening a tight lid. Mind you, these things don't make me better than females, they are opportunities for me to contribute to the family as a physically larger human with greater stamina. I am capable of providing for my family financially and physically. I can bring home a paycheck and I can bring home a hunted animal for dinner. I am not ashamed of this fact, nor do I revel in the taking of life. It is a necessary skill and others in my family can not do it. I recognize how difficult society has made it to be a woman these days - the pressure to be all things to all people. To have a full career and still be a complete wife and a complete mom. To be pretty ALL the time, to be thin ALL the time. To be fashionable ALL the time. I am completely supportive of my mate when it comes to her sometimes wanting to drift with this tide and sometimes wanting to swim against it. Besides that, you have the standard gentleman's manners of doors and chairs, handshakes, and iron-clad words of honor. All other things like putting a marriage and family first in life, being honest, etc. I think they are just good human qualities to strive for. Nothing particularly male about them. __________________ Gives a man a halo, does mead. "Here lies The_Jazz: Killed by an ambitious, sparkly, pink butterfly."