First off, intelligence: I need a woman who is at least as smart as I am, if not smarter. My relationships involve an enormous amount of scholarly discussion and witty repartee, and if a girl's not a challenge for me in those areas...no way.
Sense of humor. My girl's gotta have an eye for the quirky, and slightly askew worldview, a love of puns and wordplays and (as mentioned) witty repartee, and an earthy pleasure in dirty jokes and sexual humor.
Creativity. Artists, scholars, writers, actors, musicians, dancers, and clergy: these are the girls I like. Type-A hardcores, scientists and lawyers and architects and shit: no thank you-- I'm sure you're awesome, I'm sure you're hot. We wouldn't last a day.
Confidence (self- and otherwise). If you're too scared to be you, if you're too scared to take risks, if you're too scared to be seen and heard...you're out of here.
Priorities. You say you're hot to get rich no matter what it takes, you don't believe in God, you like fashion and society, and you don't really like reading? Wrong you: send me your mirror-universe self.
Libido/Experience. Don't just "let me" fuck you. Be hot to fuck me. Be hot for fucking, period. And know what you're doing. I'm not playing AA ball here: this team is strictly Cooperstown.
There are some other things, but those are the top of the list....
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Dull sublunary lovers love,
Whose soul is sense, cannot admit
Absence, because it doth remove
That thing which elemented it.
(From "A Valediction: Forbidding Mourning" by John Donne)
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