Originally Posted by lulu_mq

I agree. I think the first step would be to research poly-am. I would advise you to check out Mistress Matisse for advice in three sums, coupling, poly-am and relationship guidelines regarding choosing a stranger or a friend as your third. On the other hand, your husbands fantasy of you with another man is completely normal. The man still loves you. But be sure when you do your research you include your husband as well. He needs to know what he is getting into also. Lots of trust plays a significant role in this sort of thing. So be careful and have fun!