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I didn't think to offer it up before, but I think it's relevant enough to cast a little mercy the way of the wife.
When I travel, I always pack my best underwear and often I pack matching underwear. Doesn't mean someone is going to see it. It means I feel that I am away from my regular world and want to feel a little more 'put together' than I am normally. It's a girly thing, but there it is.
As for the trust issue, yes, by the time you've gone through the luggage and checked out the crotch of the panties, something is already wrong - regardless of what she did or did not do. The only real evidence to go on in this situation is the fact that she had threesomes in the past and told him about it. Now it has become a pendulum hanging over her head. If she is innocent, then that kind of sucks.
But back to the point of the conversation, the best way to get to the bottom of this is to sit down and talk about it. Maybe that's not possible given the already volatile circumstances, but snooping around is not a constructive or viable alternative, in my opinion. It's Jerry Springer show behavior - the very model of relationship disaster scenarios.
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