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braisler · 03-10-2010, 12:13 PM

I've been giving this some thought lately. I thought I'd start a thread to get input from my wise TFP friends.

As the title of the thread suggests, I have noticed that a number of sexual practices have migrated from the realm of pornography to become a much more mainstream part of our sexual lives. This is not to suggest that previous generations of people haven't been, shall we say, exotic in there sexual exploits. But it is my sense that sexual liberation continues to march on. And that porn tends to bring to bear some influence on how quickly it marches and on how we regard our own sexuality.

For the purposes of this conversation, I'd like to start with a couple of topics.

1. What are some now relatively common practices that you feel have been urged along by porn?

Pubic Shaving - first just for the ladies, more recently for the men as well.
Threesomes/Moresomes - group sex is no longer considered such a taboo.
Girl-Girl - it is now pretty socially acceptable to women to classify themselves as 'bi' or 'bi-curious'. Girls make out in clubs pretty readily, etc.
Plastic Surgery - boob jobs have become more commonplace (hate this myself) and now there are more places offering cosmetic vaginoplasty (hate this as well, but I think it fits with this topic).
'Public' porn - Japanese businessmen aside, more people are more comfortable watching porn as a group. It isn't too uncommon to see porn on the tv or computer at a party. Even if it is just for laughs.

2. What do you feel is an upcoming trend in sexuality that may stem from porn?

As more women have a controlling interest in the porn industry, I think there may be a shift in what kind of things are depicted in porn. I can imagine that an idea stems from someone's personal fantasy, to being put in a porn that, in turn, influences societal norms about what is acceptable sexual practice.

As an example, I have heard some women suggest that they fantasize about male-male sexual contact the same way that men fantasize about 2 women. If more women are in charge of making the porn, are we likely to see an increase in this bisexual fantasy being carried out on screen. Then at some point down the line, are more men likely to find it socially acceptable to label themselves as 'bi' or 'bi-curious'?

3. To what extent to you think that porn has influenced your personal sexual preferences and practices? For better or for worse?

For me, I have a pretty positive view of porn. I recognize its place as visual stimulation and fantasy. I have pretty liberal views about sexuality in general, but it is difficult to say whether this comes from watching particular things in porn. I have participated in a threesome before. I'd consider doing it again if the opportunity was right.

I'll look forward to hearing more input from the group on this topic.

I also recognize that this discussion can quickly become circular. If more people are doing something in porn, then more people are doing it in real life, so more porn will be made about it. It deteriorates into a 'which came first' argument.

03-10-2010, 12:13 PM	#1 (permalink)
braisler Addict Location: Midway, KY	From Porn to Norm I've been giving this some thought lately. I thought I'd start a thread to get input from my wise TFP friends. As the title of the thread suggests, I have noticed that a number of sexual practices have migrated from the realm of pornography to become a much more mainstream part of our sexual lives. This is not to suggest that previous generations of people haven't been, shall we say, exotic in there sexual exploits. But it is my sense that sexual liberation continues to march on. And that porn tends to bring to bear some influence on how quickly it marches and on how we regard our own sexuality. For the purposes of this conversation, I'd like to start with a couple of topics. 1. What are some now relatively common practices that you feel have been urged along by porn? Pubic Shaving - first just for the ladies, more recently for the men as well. Threesomes/Moresomes - group sex is no longer considered such a taboo. Girl-Girl - it is now pretty socially acceptable to women to classify themselves as 'bi' or 'bi-curious'. Girls make out in clubs pretty readily, etc. Plastic Surgery - boob jobs have become more commonplace (hate this myself) and now there are more places offering cosmetic vaginoplasty (hate this as well, but I think it fits with this topic). 'Public' porn - Japanese businessmen aside, more people are more comfortable watching porn as a group. It isn't too uncommon to see porn on the tv or computer at a party. Even if it is just for laughs. 2. What do you feel is an upcoming trend in sexuality that may stem from porn? As more women have a controlling interest in the porn industry, I think there may be a shift in what kind of things are depicted in porn. I can imagine that an idea stems from someone's personal fantasy, to being put in a porn that, in turn, influences societal norms about what is acceptable sexual practice. As an example, I have heard some women suggest that they fantasize about male-male sexual contact the same way that men fantasize about 2 women. If more women are in charge of making the porn, are we likely to see an increase in this bisexual fantasy being carried out on screen. Then at some point down the line, are more men likely to find it socially acceptable to label themselves as 'bi' or 'bi-curious'? 3. To what extent to you think that porn has influenced your personal sexual preferences and practices? For better or for worse? For me, I have a pretty positive view of porn. I recognize its place as visual stimulation and fantasy. I have pretty liberal views about sexuality in general, but it is difficult to say whether this comes from watching particular things in porn. I have participated in a threesome before. I'd consider doing it again if the opportunity was right. I'll look forward to hearing more input from the group on this topic. I also recognize that this discussion can quickly become circular. If more people are doing something in porn, then more people are doing it in real life, so more porn will be made about it. It deteriorates into a 'which came first' argument.