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Originally Posted by Willravel
It's not as much modifying behavior to fit in as much as it is teaching a child to be more perceptive. Ultimately, it's not changing who the child is at his or her core, it's just adding a skill set that will help them. It's like giving the child piano lessons so he or she will be good at math or teaching conflict resolution so he or she won't get into fights.
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Put like that, I'm on board.
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Originally Posted by Willravel
nonverbal cues, understanding their social meaning, and coming up with options for resolving a social conflict are just skills. Helping a child become skillful at life is a primary role of parenting, imho.
I'm not suggesting that kids shouldn't know how to defend themselves, but the best way to deal with this has to be prevention.
Regarding the bullies themselves, there are likely a host of failures at home and school that have already lead up to the child becoming a bully. Addressing those could fill a hundred threads like this one.
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Agreed. BTW, you need to bring back the young Sean avatar. Old Sean looks like he's contemplating the best way to demonstrate the relationship between his pimp hand and Newtons 2nd law to his ex-wife.