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Old 12-30-2009, 03:21 AM   #9 (permalink)
GreyWolf
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Sensitivity is a spectrum... and to people on either end, those at the opposite end are simply incomprehensible.

I can easily relate to your feeling, but I've come to realise that there are people out there who are totally oblivious to how their actions can be perceived as slights or hurtful by others. Your friend seems to be one of those people who are constantly amazed when they offend you because they don't INTEND to insult or abuse you, almost as if an insult or offense is real ONLY IF intended and directed specifically at you.

If you like the guy, you're probably going to have accept that about him.

The other thought I had when reading your post is the bit about your general failures to get people to gather at your place. It suggests to me that entertaining doesn't come naturally/easily to you, that you may stress too much about it, and that people sense that and aren't quite as at ease at your place as at your friend's. In a social gathering like watching that movie, it's as much about the social interactions as it is about the actual event.

I can commiserate, but I can't really offer any solutions since I'm pretty much in the same boat.
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