Well that is all information that might have given some of our cynics a different perspective. Also just so you know many of those questioning the guys motives are men themselves and were once young men like your gentleman. So they were trying, in their own way, to warn you.
Like I said, great thing about asking for advice, you don't have to listen or act on any of it. But you also can't come here and ask for our advice but not give the full story, not that we can ever know the full story. Only the guy in question will know what is going on in his head and all you can do is hope he is truthful with you. Perhaps you are young and some on here aren't quite so young and perhaps a little more jaded with age. But everyone tries to impart their wisdom the best they can, and sometimes our view of the world and thus what advice we give out is based upon our own previous experiences.
Don't take offense to any teasing or questioning of the situation we were only working with what we had as info.
Best of luck in this situation, go talk to him but be smart about it.
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Frivolity, at the edge of a Moral Swamp, hears Hymn-Singing in the Distance and dons the Galoshes of Remorse. ~Edward Gorey
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