The ones you regret are too many for you, the ones who gave you something incurable are the ones that are too many for me. Crompsin said something a while ago along the lines of "people need to stop treating sex as a weaponized commodity," and the same goes for sexual relationships.
If you have a problem with the number of past partners someone has had, it's because you're still putting the act of sex on a pedestal like society tells you you're supposed to instead of enjoying it like 2 million years of human evolution have programmed you for. Yes, there are people who sleep around as a substitute for self esteem, but they're the ones who pride themselves on the count and see it as a measure of their desirability and value as a person. Those people's problems will show up soon enough anyway. On the other end of things, people who have abnormally low numbers tend to be uptight and boring. This will also show up on its own. Don't assume that a number alone is a problem, affirming the consequent is a formal logical fallacy for a reason.
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