Sounds like it's just a matter of her getting to know you and your body. Not everyone likes the same thing when it comes to getting off. It's that way with any couple I think. So yeah, you both need to communicate. Doesn't have to be dinner conversation. But make it erotic by showing her or like jewels said, guiding her. Consider all the other stuff she does to you (other than the painful,) foreplay. Then get down to business.
