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NorthernGirl · 09-23-2009, 04:31 PM

I briefly dated a guy who was friends with his ex and he said she wasnt ready to commit to him so he was giving her time and he said how much he cares for her and he was even friends with her family, he talked about her alot and I told him it bothered me and that pissed him off so he stopped contact with me, I found out that a few years later they got married so Im glad that I didnt spend anymore time with him, he clearly just wanted someone to sleep with while waiting for her to come back to him , another ex was friends with his ex who was having marital problems and she would run to him for support instead of her friends and sisters who lived in the same city , he went to her house one night drinking with her and supposedly one of her female friends while her husband was out of town since he didnt approve of their friendship , I didnt like it , I told him I would rather them spend time together in public , anyway , because of his commitment phobic issues I ended the relationship and I look back with no regrets because I cannot stand a current flame being friends with a old flame, it drives me insane ,
for obvious reasons, they dated, they slept together, and theres a chance that something might happen, ex's should be left behind once someone starts dating someone new / else ...........and Im sticking to that very firmly . Hang out with friends of the opposite sex or friends that arent exs that you arent attracted to and respect your new / current relationship, thats what I say .
........in regards to the first post , just be happy you are in a good relationship and dont focus on his facebook friends list ,
everyone wonders what might have been with at least one ex from the past , but , things end for a reason and once you two start getting more serious theres no looking back, not to say he already is not looking back, as long as hes commited to you it doesnt matter whos on his friends list , I suggest not telling him that you are bothered by his friends list because that would probably really piss him off because of lack of trust and personal freedom issues......best wishes on your relationship and just be happy !!!!!!! theres many people out there searching for what you have . Leave the past behind Im sure he has already as well.

09-23-2009, 04:31 PM	#43 (permalink)
NorthernGirl Upright	I briefly dated a guy who was friends with his ex and he said she wasnt ready to commit to him so he was giving her time and he said how much he cares for her and he was even friends with her family, he talked about her alot and I told him it bothered me and that pissed him off so he stopped contact with me, I found out that a few years later they got married so Im glad that I didnt spend anymore time with him, he clearly just wanted someone to sleep with while waiting for her to come back to him , another ex was friends with his ex who was having marital problems and she would run to him for support instead of her friends and sisters who lived in the same city , he went to her house one night drinking with her and supposedly one of her female friends while her husband was out of town since he didnt approve of their friendship , I didnt like it , I told him I would rather them spend time together in public , anyway , because of his commitment phobic issues I ended the relationship and I look back with no regrets because I cannot stand a current flame being friends with a old flame, it drives me insane , for obvious reasons, they dated, they slept together, and theres a chance that something might happen, ex's should be left behind once someone starts dating someone new / else ...........and Im sticking to that very firmly . Hang out with friends of the opposite sex or friends that arent exs that you arent attracted to and respect your new / current relationship, thats what I say . ........in regards to the first post , just be happy you are in a good relationship and dont focus on his facebook friends list , everyone wonders what might have been with at least one ex from the past , but , things end for a reason and once you two start getting more serious theres no looking back, not to say he already is not looking back, as long as hes commited to you it doesnt matter whos on his friends list , I suggest not telling him that you are bothered by his friends list because that would probably really piss him off because of lack of trust and personal freedom issues......best wishes on your relationship and just be happy !!!!!!! theres many people out there searching for what you have . Leave the past behind Im sure he has already as well. Last edited by NorthernGirl; 09-23-2009 at 04:38 PM..