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For the record, DaniGirl's friend is my sister. The child they took is my nephew. This is a pretty personal issue for me at the moment.
I'm not mad DCFS took my nephew. The story my sister told in that emergency room fits a profile. It's not very likely for a child to break his leg due to a short drop. My sister fits a profile. She's a 20 year old single mother with tattoos and a sour attitude.
Most importantly, though, my sister is the best and most caring mom I know. She doesn't believe in physical discipline to any extent. If anybody even swats that boys hand, she goes off the fucking handle about it. She did not do anything intentional that led to her son's broken leg.
I know that. Everybody else who knows her knows that. DCFS cannot be sure of it until they do an investigation because of the red flags that have been risen. I understand that. My worry is that, in my fairly extensive experience, Utah State Department of Child and Family Services does everything they possibly can to remove the child from their parents once they initially remove them. I've seen it time and time again. The child gets taken and then the parents spend years jumping through hoops, dealing with humiliation, and going way above and beyond what should be expected of a parent and still never getting their kids back. Meanwhile, the children go back and forth through the system.
You know, my sister struggles because the father of her son is a useless, drugged up transient, she's trying to go to school, work, and take care of her kids by herself, she currently lives in my step-father's front room because of all this, and now she has to go through the humiliation of being called bad mother. Furthermore, all those things she's struggling with are going to be used against her as evidence that she's a bad mother.
It's fucked...
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