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"Your Wife is having issues with her body. She thinks you no longer see her as sexual, only maternal. Show her what you feel. Show her that you see her as an equal. "
I've seen the opposite as true though. My wife went through a phase where SHE stopped seeing herself as anything other than MOTHER. When I could get her out of the house, away from the kids for a night out, it was as if she could play dress up and become a woman again. We went on a weekend away without the kids for the first time since having them (5 years later - big mistake here) and she did the wise and liberating thing to go and buy new clothes and panties and lingerie before the trip. It was as if a massive weight had been lifted in our relationship. Suddenly she remembered what it was like to FEEL sexy and realized that I had never stopped seeing her as sexy and attractive. It was her perception that had changed of herself all these years. It also meant that from dawn to dusk, her attention and energy could be focused on her interactions with me. Same went for me on that one. Suddenly it was if we were capable of emotions that hadn't been feasible for so many years when our entire life focused on nothing but children.
As for the sex....it was a great sex weekend too. 3 or 4 times a day for 4 days. on the balcony, in the hot tub, on the sofa, on the bed, on the pool table, on the outdoor furniture, on the coffee table, etc... We were all over each other. Hell, we'd get dressed to go out to eat and not even make it out the door.
We try to do this once a year now, and I think we should really do it twice a year because it is that much of a shot of adrenaline for our relationship.
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I think that's what they mean by "nickels a day can feed a child." I thought, "How could food be so cheap over there?" It's not, they just eat nickels. - (supposedly) Peter Nguyen, internet hero
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