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Originally Posted by MSD
Did you have confidence the first time you asked someone out? Hell, I still get nervous when I approach someone, but I have to step back and realize that maybe she's looking for the same thing as me, maybe she's not, and just because she's got a different set of parts doesn't change the fact that she's a person, just like me. Once you get used to it and understand that the worst she can do is say "no" (or pepper spray you if you really screw up,) it's not so bad.
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No but the first time I approached a woman was a couple of years post puberty. I'm 23 now. Being nervous is silly at this point. And I don't talk to women who are looking at me, or not looking at me. I don't try to read the signs. In fact I don't chase women. I meet them in natural settings: through friends, through work, random conversation (stuff that happens naturally as well. for instance: standing at a bar where I go normally and I make a joke to the bartender and the girl next to me laughs and says something). I don't worry about getting laid or dating because there's no point.
EDIT: When I say I don't chase women, I don't mean I don't ask women out or hope for something more with someone I'm interested in, becasue I do. What I don't do is make it an issue of pursuit; it's not something to be won or lost. I'm fine with life happening without me trying to force my will on something that isn't satisfactory. I hope that makes sense.