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I may yet post this in Tilted Sexuality and get the guy's perspective, but I really was interested in how other women approach it. If the goal is a long-term relationship, the most conventional advice is to wait. But I've also done that and ended up in an emotionally satisfying relationship that did nothing for me physically. Sad but true.
There is some argument that if the sparks aren't there in the beginning, they never will be. That isn't entirely true either, as I have developed physical feelings for people I didn't initially find attractive enough.
I've been thinking about this conundrum for a long while. It seems to be a "damned if you do, damned if you don't" sort of thing. I'm not one for waiting for artificial reasons, but I've had enough encounters with men who seem to get what they want and disappear to be skeptical of the "they won't hold it against you if you give in too soon."
I have friends who range from the "not until marriage" to "I try 'em on like pants." Throw in a few in between of the "when it feels right" and the "make 'em earn it" variety and you quickly see that there is no one answer.
I guess that is the answer: there is no one answer even for one person.
Interesting interpersonal and cultural topic to mull though.
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