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minim · 01-23-2009, 04:55 PM

Interesting thread. I think cheating is cheating regardless of the gender (I'm female and bi). The other day my husband made an offhand remark that if I wanted to "keep the sheets warm" with another woman when he was away, he'd be OK with that. I'm not sure if he was serious. My reaction to this was threefold.

1. Wait. What?

2. Hmm. I do kind of miss women...

3. But it wouldn't be a good idea. It's not like taking a vibrator to bed, there is a whole other human being involved and potential feelings on both sides (or three sides, if he realizes after the fact that it DOES bother him). Sleeping with a woman wouldn't just be some kind of experiment for me.

At any rate - I would have a hard time being with another woman WITHOUT considering it cheating, and it would be weird to me if he didn't consider it cheating. (And almost slightly patronizing, like sleeping with a woman doesn't "count"?)

01-23-2009, 04:55 PM	#47 (permalink)
minim Upright	Interesting thread. I think cheating is cheating regardless of the gender (I'm female and bi). The other day my husband made an offhand remark that if I wanted to "keep the sheets warm" with another woman when he was away, he'd be OK with that. I'm not sure if he was serious. My reaction to this was threefold. 1. Wait. What? 2. Hmm. I do kind of miss women... 3. But it wouldn't be a good idea. It's not like taking a vibrator to bed, there is a whole other human being involved and potential feelings on both sides (or three sides, if he realizes after the fact that it DOES bother him). Sleeping with a woman wouldn't just be some kind of experiment for me. At any rate - I would have a hard time being with another woman WITHOUT considering it cheating, and it would be weird to me if he didn't consider it cheating. (And almost slightly patronizing, like sleeping with a woman doesn't "count"?)