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to the rephrased question, would I stay in a sexless marriage to preserve financial success, my answer is no. Because sexless marriage means so much more than no sex. It means emotional unhappiness, indifference or constant rowing, and all manner of unpleasant things. I'm sure that, unless your friend was penniless and married a millionaire, leaving his sexless marriage won't mean he loses all his financial assets, just that he'll lose some of it. I'm sure he won't be living on the streets, right? So, I'd bail out. It's easy to look at really, where do you want to be at the end of your life, unhappy and lonely, with lots of money? That's not how I want to end up, in any case.
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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