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Originally Posted by Starkizzer
I don't really want children either, im2smrt4u does at least he likes the idea of it.
I think after being with him for this long I realize I love him enough that I wouldn't deny him a kid if I knew he would regret it if we didn't. I have also come to realize that its not so much that I absolutely will not have kids but more that if we don't I won't be disappointed if we don't. I think I would be perfectly happy to not have kids but I know I would love my kid if we decide to have one.
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People can definitely change as they get older.
When I began dating the woman who was to become my present-day wife, we were in our early 30's, and she told me up front that she did not ever want to have children. (This was to be my 2nd marriage and her first.) Well, at the time, that was okay with me.
However, after dating for over a year, we ended up having a "happy accident", and now we have a beautiful daughter. (Our daughter is now 8.) My wife absoultely adores this child, and she has become, IMHO, one of the best – one of the most loving, nurturing, happy and fulfilled – mothers in the world. I think she has come to see a side of herself that she didn't know existed. (I think my wife had supressed that side of herself because of the dysfunctional ways of her own mother. But when it comes to motherhood, my wife has proven to be little if anything like her own mother.)