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OzOz · 06-08-2003, 07:32 PM

I've been using this sort of thing for over a year. The fact is, in this day and age, many people don't have the opportunity to meet potential partners in their everyday life. Online personals fill a need there. In the time I've had my profiles up, I've had one short-term relationship (fell apart when the girl got kicked out of the country and her mood went to pieces - I wasn't able to cheer her up) and I've been lucky enough to make a few good friends out of it as well.

One thing I would mention is that a lot of people who do use them would seem, from their profiles, to be looking for an instant "GOSH WOW" connection - and they behave that way on meeting. In my opinion, that's a mistake. Sometimes of course it's obvious that it's just not going to happen, ever, but there will be a few people you might meet who you might not feel an instant, overwhelming attraction towards but could be good to hang out with. You never know what can come from these people. I'm very aware that my ex-wife - who I spent eleven years together with and who is still a good friend - and I were nothing more than good friends for the first six months that we knew each other, and our relationship grew out of that.

Also, someone you meet might have first-date nerves and not be at their best!

06-08-2003, 07:32 PM	#15 (permalink)
OzOz Psycho Location: Right here, right now.	I've been using this sort of thing for over a year. The fact is, in this day and age, many people don't have the opportunity to meet potential partners in their everyday life. Online personals fill a need there. In the time I've had my profiles up, I've had one short-term relationship (fell apart when the girl got kicked out of the country and her mood went to pieces - I wasn't able to cheer her up) and I've been lucky enough to make a few good friends out of it as well. One thing I would mention is that a lot of people who do use them would seem, from their profiles, to be looking for an instant "GOSH WOW" connection - and they behave that way on meeting. In my opinion, that's a mistake. Sometimes of course it's obvious that it's just not going to happen, ever, but there will be a few people you might meet who you might not feel an instant, overwhelming attraction towards but could be good to hang out with. You never know what can come from these people. I'm very aware that my ex-wife - who I spent eleven years together with and who is still a good friend - and I were nothing more than good friends for the first six months that we knew each other, and our relationship grew out of that. Also, someone you meet might have first-date nerves and not be at their best! __________________ Maybe you should put some shorts on or something, if you wanna keep fighting evil today.