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Originally Posted by canuckguy
Was he joking when he said it? Or was it a harsh crisp statement with a frown on his face?
not that joking forgives the comment but some insight on your normal banter with him might help me understand. for example i work with a guy that i think the only non swear word i say to him is "off"....same for him to me. We like to see who can rag on the other the best. If someone over heard us they'd think we were fighting unless they saw us laughing.
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Well, we had only spoken once before this so we didn't have a normal banter. He seemed very serious to me and his attempt at an apology confirmed that he was serious.
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Originally Posted by allfullup
Whoops, re-reading for comprehension. That was about as early as you could've screened him out.
Personally, in my inner world of infinite confidence, I might have engaged him intellectually on his assumptions and ended the conversation with a demonstration of your selectiveness appropriate to his corrigibility, from an apology that it didn't work out, up to and including him wearing your drink.
In the future, maybe it should be your inquiry. "Can you handle not being the only one?"
Admittedly it's different for me, being a guy. (Ironically I'm fighting off guilt about having occasional fantasies about my two girlfriends, who have separately confided in me some level of attraction to one another, engaging me in a ménage a trois...)
I sympathize that it's tough to play beyond the social limitations of your cohort. Don't let the normals grind you down!
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Apparently this guy couldn't handle not being the only one! And allfullup, you should never feel guilty about fantasies besides, maybe you should bring this up with them and see what happens.
