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I am an only child and I'd like to have more than one child. My particular circumstances and experience are mine only though. I have no right to say what anyone else should do and I don't judge anyone for their choice in that regard. Do what makes you happy.
My experience as an only child was nice enough, but I wouldn't have minded having a sibling to play with and share certain things with. The caring for my parents as elderly people doesn't worry me too much, what worries me is being able to do so as well as possible, for financial reasons.
My parents were quite protective of me so that meant that I did miss out on certain social events because of that, and being an only child I had to learn to make do with myself 95% of the time. So I think I would have benefited more, and my parents might have relaxed more, had there been more than one child. But I think there are other benefits I gained from being an only child too.
I think I want more than one child simply because I feel it's more balanced and helps a person relate to the world and others better. Also if you have only one child I feel there is a constant worry and with two you get a little more seasoned at dealing with the worry (not saying there is any less of it).
To each his own.
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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