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I love children and hope to have at a minimum of 2. I would like to push it to 4, God willing and depending upon financial viability. Adoption is certainly on the table and a real possibility.
Have you ever thought that these people who ask or talk to you about children may not realize they are being rude? I think it is perfectly natural and biological to want and have many children. We just happen to live in modern times where we really don't "need" to have kids and/or our lifestyle changes and the relatively new social phenomenon of disposable income have afforded us luxuries beyond raising a family.
But people still have instincts and intuition. I understand it's annoying and rude for people to "get in your business", but it's possible they don't realize what they are doing.
I would suggest the next time this happens, gently but firmly tell them, "I am happy for you that you have found the perfect family size, but so have we. Have a nice day."
Or
"I'm sorry, my family planning is a private matter. Thank you for you concern."
For perspective and edification, there are real reasons for family planning involving 2 or more children. One may say our future depends on it. Social security, employment are all very real and very serious concerns. Countries like Japan, China, and Sweden with low birth rates face serious challenges in labor and social security not to mention the difficulties only children face in socialization.
But that aside, at the end of the day the choice is yours and yours alone. General courtesy demands that people respect that.
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