Originally Posted by merleniau

Personally, I tend to have problems with porn. I don't appreciate it as "innocent fun" and I do subscribe to the idea that it can be a form of infidelity.

Most of the people on TFP will call me a prude or insecure with that admission (as I'm sure you've seen, there are plenty of threads about porn and telling women to "get over it, men are visual, it's harmless, it's normal").

My thought is thus: How can you truly commit to monogamy or a monogamous relationship if you fantasize about fucking other people on a regular basis? I hear the argument that "it gets the need to have multiple partners out of the system," but what I want to know is WHY that is considered a "need."

In my mind, if a person is truly committed to monogamy and wants fantasy/masturbatory material, they should seek out photos/video of their partner, not another person who is photographed because he/she meets societal ideals of a sexual object.

I may end up deleting/editing this post down later, but this is my thought process when it comes to porn. I just don't like it being present in a relationship, especially a sexually active, committed one where both individuals live together.

*Note - I am not addressing people in open relationships, polyamorous relationships, or relationships in which partners have not committed to being monogamous.