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Originally Posted by punkmusicfan21
Here is the deal Pat. She wasn't being mean; well, perhaps she was, but if she was feeling anxious it had nothing to do with you. When someone is having an anxiety attack, the easiest thing to do is to just do what makes them comfortable; most of the time that means leaving them be. I'm assuming, that since you don't understand you are going off the deep end tryng to be comforting and understanding but that, for someone who is feeling anxious, just makes them feel crowded and they often lash out in the moment because they are freaking out. Also, anxiety attacks are an on goig occurrence, in that if one happens in the day, especially when you're young, will continue to have little after shocks, if you will, for the remainder of the day.
A big, nay, HUGE, problem here is that you are trying to be distantly supportive of something you don't understand. Like "She has a load of issues but I like her in spite of it". Everyone has issues man; how about learning about it, and then approaching it with an educated opinion. A lot of people suffer from nurosis and psychotic behavior and you're certainly not the first one to have to deal with a partner with it.
So deal with it; know what I mean?
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I have come to believe in time that everyone is a little neurotic, maybe not psychotic but everyone has their quirks. I think the
normal people are the minority in some ways.
Seriously though, Punk seems to have some good advice here. It is hard to press someone in how they should be handling things, especially if they are feeling in a sense that they have little control left in their lives. Learn a little more about it, I think it would make both of you more comfortable. Maybe you will come across a good book or group that may help her understand and overcome her problem. Let her know you care and understand that it isn't her fault, but that you are interested in helping her through it.
A lot of people have anxiety issues, at times they can be caused by more organic medical issues. It could be something as simple as an untreated thyroid disorder. Going to a Medical specialist before seeing psych is definitely not a bad thing. Be prepared though, they will generally offer anti-anxiety meds, a lot of people disagree with their use.
Wishing you luck.