Originally Posted by soma

Alright here's some more info and how I handled the situation.

I was going to a gay bar with some friends of mine and I was traveling alone that night. I got into the city before the rest of my group so I decided to grab a drink at another bar. It was pretty quiet there and I was just chatting with the bartender who happened to be gay (i later found out). I told him i was going to a gay club that night with my friends and I think that's what made him think I was gay. Also, I could definitely pull off being gay based on the way I look and dress which I imagine contributed to him thinking im gay.

I paid with my credit card before leaving which is how i think he got my name. The next day I got a message from him on myspace that seemed flirtatious in nature. I don't want to seem big headed, but I really don't know why a bartender would find me on myspace and make contact unless he was interested, right?

Anyway, the way I fixed the situation was to do so in a subtle way. I messaged back telling him that i had a good time with my friends (in the message he asked how my night was) and that it's crazy how a straight guy like me could have so much fun at a gay bar. I hope he gets the hint. If not, I'll be more direct.