Originally Posted by mixedmedia

How do you know she was a bad person? Because some anonymous person said so?

There used to be this thing - they called it grace. And people tried to attain it. And doing so meant differentiating yourself from the people who behaved in ways you didn't like. It's a choice that folks can make.

Without it, everyone is an asshole and there's nothing to differentiate from, therefore folks are relegated to judging behavior that is only 'worse than their own.' Which is largely where we are at in this day and age, and it's very frustrating.

There is no sliding scale. You either act with grace and abstain from, for instance, distasteful public displays of vindictiveness, or you don't.

This woman may have been a terrible person, I don't know. But, I do know for sure is that her son is vindictive and tacky. And that is the sort of thing that I try to differentiate from.

Like I said, who hasn't had assholes in their family? My family has certainly had its share. Wah, wah, wah, my mom was mean. That's what I hear.

Again, pfft.