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I don't see a preference as discriminatory.
But, if your preference overrides the actual quality of the person you are with, then maybe you should consider that your judgment is a little impaired by the importance of superficial attraction. For example, if you love busty redheads but all of the ones you have dated have popcorn for brains, you may be selling yourself short for not admitting that sometimes what you want, is not what will be good for you. That being said, I'm sure there's plenty of very intelligent busty redheads out there...so maybe it's more a case of persevering on the quest for the right intellectual match to you, but not disregarding women who are not busty redheads entirely.
What follows here is: "just because she looks how I like, doesn't make her perfect. And conversely, just because she doesn't look quite how I like, doesn't make her less perfect either."
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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