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cmc · 08-16-2008, 07:21 AM

Jerry Seinfeld had a great angle on cheating: If you go out with someone, that's not cheating.
If you are in a committed relationship with someone, and then hook up with another person, that's cheating.
But to Cheat, you first have to be committed - because without commitment, you can't cheat.

On the subject, - I love simple - best effort honesty ... I believe that there is a ( God powered) playful - loving partner for me in this world. If the person I'm with does not feel, think, believe, hope, know that that is Her - then she helps me the most ( or moist) by simply communicating to me that I'm not a one for her ... and vise versa ... as the process to connecting with a 'soul mate' cannot be denied. I've been in relationships where I WANTED to be committed - but in my heart of hearts did not feel blissful about our relationship. For the period of time that I - at some level knew she was not a one for me - and I did not have the courage to tell her & my self this, I did not respect her ability to be in a relationship where she was totally cherished --- bottom line - real intimacy to me seems impossible without honesty - with self ( 1st ) and with my play partner. I think that law of love is - the gifts I give my others - are the gifts I give my self. So for me - I think that I am bound by the laws of the universe to give a partner the truth - hopefully gently and peacefully - if I want to be 'worthy' of receiving my self from others ( any and all others ) ...

P.S. - in the ground breaking book titled ' Getting the Love You Want ' - by Harville Hendrix - he wrote a list of 10 things to do to have 'conscious marriage' and the last of the 10 is this: No # 10 - one begins to see and understand that it is first and foremost about BEING THE RIGHT partner - rather than about finding the right partner.

08-16-2008, 07:21 AM	#40 (permalink)
cmc Crazy Location: usa	Jerry Seinfeld had a great angle on cheating: If you go out with someone, that's not cheating. If you are in a committed relationship with someone, and then hook up with another person, that's cheating. But to Cheat, you first have to be committed - because without commitment, you can't cheat. On the subject, - I love simple - best effort honesty ... I believe that there is a ( God powered) playful - loving partner for me in this world. If the person I'm with does not feel, think, believe, hope, know that that is Her - then she helps me the most ( or moist) by simply communicating to me that I'm not a one for her ... and vise versa ... as the process to connecting with a 'soul mate' cannot be denied. I've been in relationships where I WANTED to be committed - but in my heart of hearts did not feel blissful about our relationship. For the period of time that I - at some level knew she was not a one for me - and I did not have the courage to tell her & my self this, I did not respect her ability to be in a relationship where she was totally cherished --- bottom line - real intimacy to me seems impossible without honesty - with self ( 1st ) and with my play partner. I think that law of love is - the gifts I give my others - are the gifts I give my self. So for me - I think that I am bound by the laws of the universe to give a partner the truth - hopefully gently and peacefully - if I want to be 'worthy' of receiving my self from others ( any and all others ) ... P.S. - in the ground breaking book titled ' Getting the Love You Want ' - by Harville Hendrix - he wrote a list of 10 things to do to have 'conscious marriage' and the last of the 10 is this: No # 10 - one begins to see and understand that it is first and foremost about BEING THE RIGHT partner - rather than about finding the right partner. Last edited by cmc; 08-16-2008 at 07:33 AM..