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I think it's pretty disrespectful to find someone else while you're still with someone. It's a pretty hard blow. I don't mean to judge but I feel strongly about this.
I answered the poll for myself, so my reply was "It's just not working out". That's what I'd want to hear (and I'd expect them not to ever cheat on me), and that's probably what I'd say (because I wouldn't cheat either).
In your case, if you're asking what to say relating to your truth, then I think you must be honest. If you don't tell him, you'll only be saving face for yourself. If you do tell him, it may hurt him more at the time, but it also may make him come to terms with it better, because he will probably realise you weren't the girl for him, because you cheated on him.
I do think that there are some things we don't need to hear, but if your relationship with this guy is that serious, I expect just a small goodbye will not suffice for him. Whatever you do, try not to draw it out. Quick and clean is always best to maintain some sanity and civility.
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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